8 Rules of Love: The Sunday Times bestsellling guide on how to find lasting love and enjoy healthy relationships, from the author of Think Like A Monk

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At first, 8 rules of love may seem like just another one of the boring, repetitive self-help books that's gonna try and teach us about love and instead be full of author's plugins, repetitive advice we've all heard that doesn't work and just fall short. You forget what you've read a day or two after. This is so far from that. But I would hate to express my love for this book and how great it is, with comparing it to others, and moreso because of how in its own league it is. In the first ashram, Brahmacharya, we prepare for love. We don’t get in a car and start to drive without studying for a learner’s permit and practicing the core skills in a safe space. When we take a new job, we might prepare by learning a new computer program, talking to people we’ll be working with about what might be expected of us, or reviewing whatever skills we might need. And we prepare for love by learning how to love ourselves in solitude. Alone, we learn to understand ourselves, to heal our own pain, and to care for ourselves. We acquire skills like compassion, empathy, and patience (Rule 1). This prepares us to share love because we’ll need these qualities when we love someone else. We will also examine our past relationships to avoid making the same mistakes in relationships going forward (Rule 2).

What I love about this book adalah 2 bab awal ngebahas habis tentang self-love. Bukan yg normatif. Tapi ngingetin kita kalau "lu mau pasangan yg kayak gitu, ya lu kudu usaha sampe ke level itu." No one lift us up kecuali diri kita sendiri. I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being. Overall, I can endorse this book for young people who have not already read a hundred other titles with similar messages.Before we continue... I wanted to write a fair critique so I read the book and even listened to parts to see if anything changed with him reading it. I listened to podcasts where he is a guest and a few where he's the host and both solo and guest episodes. I googled some of the things he talks about in the book. I googled him. Overall, I gave him a fair chance before really settling into my decision. That's one thing. The other thing yg aku syukuri adalah: Syemmi ngasih aku banyak "gift" yg selama ini aku dapatkan dari orangtuaku.

ir ļoti iedrošinoša grāmata! Smaidīt. Sev un citiem. Mīlēt. Sevi un citus. Un ne vien astoņos mīlestības likumos, bet pagriežot "8" simbolu ... "∞" ... bezgalība ... My review at Newsblaze sounded a bit too harsh. THIS IS A GOOD BOOK. Not "new" and unprecedented but still useful those who have not read a gazillion other books about love and relationships. Researchers from the German Center of Gerontology analyzed data from more than 2,500 participants in a German aging survey. They found that as time went on, people became happier with their single status, and their relationship status became less relevant to them. DePaulo writes that over time, single life gets better and better, and for individuals as they age, satisfaction with their single lives continues to rise. Below, Jay shares 5 key insights from his new book, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go. Listen to the audio version—read by Jay himself—in the Next Big Idea App. https://cdn.nextbigideaclub.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/14101354/BB_Jay-Shetty_MIX.mp3 1. Let yourself be alone. Jay Shetty explores themes of compassion, empathy, forgiveness, and self-awareness as they relate to love, all of that again, very accessible, with an easy to follow and engaging writing style.I think he takes some serious liberties with interpretations of Vedic texts. He frames everything into love (and mostly between monogamous partners) which... took one Google to dispel. His four stages of love.... are really stretched interpretations from the Bhagavad Gita. And I feel like he just uses whatever suits him to fit his point because well... none of us were monks! none of us have read the Bhagavad Gita!! so how would we know! Dalam 8RoL, Shetty menekankan kalau beda antara "mencintai" dg "memiliki" tuh tipis banget. Seringkali kita memaknai "cinta" sinonim dg "ownership." Padahal setiap manusia punya otoritas atas dirinya sendiri. Every one of us punya kuasa buat nentuin mau dibawa hubungannya (you sing, you lose). Many of us pass through these four ashrams without learning the lessons they present. In the first ashram, we resist being alone and miss out on the growth that solitude offers. In the second, we avoid lessons that come from the challenges that accompany any relationship. In the third, we don’t take responsibility for our healing. And the fourth—loving everyone—is something we never even consider because we have no idea it’s possible. Another problem with over-emphasizing chemistry is that it doesn’t take character into account. Character traits such as our interests and values are far important for a successful long-term relationship. Chemistry starts a relationship, compatibility keeps it going, and character protects the relationship when things are falling apart. “When you see someone’s personality, you see what you like, but when you see someone’s character, you see the more difficult, challenging parts of them.” The storybook version of love I displayed for Radhi wasn’t the love that would sustain our relationship. Fairy tales, films, songs, and myths don’t tell us how to practice love every day. That requires learning what love means for the two of us as individuals and unlearning what we thought it meant. That’s why I’m sharing my imperfect story. I don’t know everything, and I don’t have everything figured out. Radhi has taught me so much about love, and I continue to learn with her. I’m sharing all this book’s advice with you knowing how much I could have used it myself and will use it in the future. Love is not about staging the perfect proposal or creating a perfect relationship. It’s about learning to navigate the imperfections that are intrinsic to ourselves, our partners, and life itself. I hope this book helps you do just that.

Oxytocin is related to the feeling of being in love. When we have sex, men’s oxytocin levels spike about 500 percent. Men and women feel closer chemically during and after sex, but we are not actually closer emotionally. Most people have had some experience of being in an unhealthy relationship: lots of arguing, a bit toxic, not transparent, but the sex and the physical connection was incredible. Emotionally you feel distant, but physically you feel close. “Men and women feel closer chemically during and after sex, but we are not actually closer emotionally.” Each of these rules helps you develop a mindset for love, whether you are single, in a relationship, or breaking up. You can practice solitude in a relationship. You can reframe your approach to conflict no matter what your situation. These rules come into play in all life scenarios.When you are dating, when you are first getting to know someone, you’re looking for that inner spark. But in the end, it’s their character that will keep that relationship intact. We often don’t really know the character of our partner, we only know their personality. Character is different—it’s how they behave when they’re stressed, when they’re fatigued, and when they’re in a bad mood. When you see someone’s personality, you see what you like, but when you see someone’s character, you see the more difficult, challenging parts of them. Gerade in Sachen von Liebe und gesunder Beziehung halte ich vor 3000 Jahren als kein gutes autoritätsargument (;