Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD

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William Curb: But it also sounds like you're then like, being like, Hey, it's time for the weekend. It's time to do the stuff I need to to help recover. This book isn't billed as, and typically does not take the stance of, a faith-based book. This makes it particularly jarring when Dr Rosier advises that it's important for /some profiles/ of ADHD to ensure they set time aside to "breathe and Pray...focus on God and his promise" in our life. Similarly, later in the book, when talking about boundaries, she compares our inner self to a house, where people cannot come in without permission (disregard the idea of intrusive thoughts or burglars), sharing that "not even the God of the universe" can enter without being invited. Timothy R. Jennings, MD, DFAPA, author of The God-Shaped Brain: How Changing Your View of God Transforms Your Life, president of Come and Reason Ministries, and past president of the Tennessee and Southern Psychiatric Associations And for your listeners, the metaphor is your prefrontal cortex apart right behind your forehead usually works like a Butler, a calm Butler, saying, "Tamara, you left your keys here. For Tamara if you want to leave at this time, do this. It's almost like my Butler has a Siri voice. You know, it's like, this is just do these next thing. And so the Butler organizes us. It tells us don't get too upset about that. That's not a problem. We can work it out. And so it's a very reasonable calm butler. I know, I know, ADHD comes in all shapes and sizes, and there is no one size fits all solution. Unfortunately, other than visualization, there is really no solution to try in this book. You are being led to a problem and instructed, and now deal with it.

i'll try to write a coherent review but i just wanna say i have learned so much about myself through this book. disclaimer: im not diagnosed with adhd but i do have most of the symptoms. im not tryna self diagnose myself but god, this book spoke to me on a whole new different level—like it was calling me out each time. And so I'm familiar with what you're talking about. I'd like to add though. So the TikTokers, the ADHD TikTokers are saying, "Hey dude, the DSM is missing all of these things" and it's a democratic solution. To the authorities kind of ignoring ADHD. And the DSM is way behind in talking about ADHD. Russ Barkley talks about that quite a bit. Right? There's nothing wrong with having a relationship with faith, but dropping small kernels of imperative faith in an otherwise logic-based book just feels awkward. William Curb: just to just, I just force myself to do this. We can just go and do it. We'll be done. And then we can, then we can go to the dandelions and I don't like that. And it's funny because we forget to do that for other people. You know, the person could have cut you off because they were just, weren't paying attention. That's still doesn't make them an evil jerk. It makes them careless, still not an evil jerk, but we jumped to evil jerk must die!William Curb: Yeah. I think that's a great point too. It's like, we, we want things to go with, like, just like. I can envision things going so well and they never go as well as I envisioned, because I don't think about everything that could be going on. It's like, oh, I'm going to sit down and write this. It's going to be perfect. Oh, I don't know what that word means. I need to stop and look that up. Oh, I thought I knew what that concept was, but maybe I don't. And so it's like, oh, there's all these little turns. I have to take that in and think about it. PDF / EPUB File Name: Your_Brains_Not_Broken_-_Tamara_Phd_Rosier.pdf, Your_Brains_Not_Broken_-_Tamara_Phd_Rosier.epub

What I discovered in Your Brain's Not Brokenis how entwined my emotions, and the energy that comes from them, are in everything I do! Even better, there's something I can do to take control. And now you can discover what you can do too!" William Curb: Yeah. Well, I will say I loved reading the book. I thought it was fantastic. So great job. Love the approach Your Brain's Not Broken takes with ADHD. After my ADHD diagnosis, I devoured books about what science thought was happening in my brain. And I compared that to how it manifested in my life. I soon realized adult ADHD is not one-size-fits-all. Many of the ADHD descriptions didn't apply. Others were close but not quite right. And big pieces of the puzzle were missing. For years, the emotional aspect of ADHD was, at best, mentioned in passing. At worst, they ignored it completely. Yet the emotional volatility related to my ADHD has cost me the most. In relationships, in jobs, in most aspects of my life. What I discovered in Your Brain's Not Broken is how entwined my emotions, and the energy that comes from them, are in everything I do! Even better, there's something I can do to take control. And now you can discover what you can do too!"And I think that's really important to think about like, "Hey, there are a lot of ways that ADHD presents and there's a lot of things that maybe not aren't ADHD symptom and herself, but are consequences of a symptom."

Dr. Tamara Rosier: Right. But we look at our neuro-typical counterparts and go, but they have a clean car. Grownups should have a clean car. Yeah. And by the way, I don't know about you, but I hate putting gas in my car. Dr. Tamara Rosier: Right. That's the red blue pattern that I talk about in the book. I happen to have that pattern myself, like, all right, I'm on today. And the red quadrant is kind of the go, go, go quadrant. And, and then I flopped to blue because I can't sustain that high emotional energy. And so, yeah, I do. I flopped a blue and I'm like I'm tired. The other thing we don't understand is would we gear ourselves up to have a super productive day, super productive?everything made sense: maybe i got adhd 😭 and once i learned that and accepted that scary possibility, i learned how to manange it. its still not perfect, of course, but i learned so much. ever since i was a kid, i had nothing to guide me down this very confusing path, but this book felt like a map and a compass at the same time. it felt so uplifting to read and realize something like this. Or, you know, this time of year when we have to return right. Returning. It's like, oh, I'm never going to be able to return to this. How does this even work? And the truth is what's hard for us is usually simple for other people. But if we focus on that, we're going to miss that. There's some times we can look like freaking geniuses because our brains put things together that other people don't put together. William Curb: Yeah, it's really just an aspect of all of ADHD, just like that prioritizing is so hard because everything feels like a priority. So then nothing's a priority. And then you're like just throwing darts, trying to figure out which ones actually is.

Also found the information about the striatum really interesting, and the studies she mentions showing its behaviour in people with ADHD in relation to reward anticipation made sense to me, and the divergent vs convergent thinking stuff blew my mind as I hadn't heard of that before. Oh and the early chapter about emotional regulation was really helpful in understanding what's going on inside someone with ADHD. This is a very useful book for navigating and understanding emotionality as it pertains to ADHD. In particular, I appreciated the explanation of divergent and convergent thinking. I also really liked the emphasis on the importance of sleep. Overall, this was a very interesting and insightful read. I will be recommending it to my students and integrating it into how I work with the students with ADHD that I coach. William Curb: Yeah. And we're not being productive by doing any of the recovery things either. It's like, could, could I not do something that would be good for me tomorrow too. I'm just doing things. Doing that borrowing from here. I'm not doing anything to be like, okay, let's also do this productive thing. That's gonna make me feel awesome tomorrow. The main thing that separated this book from others on ADHD was that the author focused on the ways we use negative emotions (like anxiety, anger, and self-loathing) to motivate ourselves to remember things and complete tasks. Because the ADHD brain has poor short-term memory, people with ADHD tend to use emotional memory to anchor tasks and motivations. This allows us to be successful, but it leads to lifelong unhealthy coping skills that result in high anxiety, burnout, and overwhelm. Before reading this book, I’d never heard anyone make this connection but it really resonated with me - it helps me understand why life feels so much more exhausting for me than for someone without ADHD.

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William Curb: Yeah. You don't have to take everything personally because often it isn't personal. It's just, this is something I do a lot I've learned to do in while driving is someone cuts me off. It's not because they're a jerk it's because they're having a bad day. I hope they have a better day because that would be nice if we all had better days. And I remember the first time I did that and I was just like, oh, that feels way better. Dr. Tamara Rosier: Yeah. You know, it's funny because I'm, I'm always surprised of when I get to Friday night. Like, I don't know why I'm so tired, but I'm exhausted. My husband just looks at me like, are you serious? You can't figure this out. Like you've been going, going, going all week and now your body's like, "Hey, we're done", but each Friday night I'm somewhat surprised at how tired I am. And I think it's kind of funny that I don't really ever figure this out. I mean, I know it enough to write about it. And yet each Friday night, I wonder why I'm so tired. William Curb: Yeah, but my thoughts going in a few ways here, because it is that idea that it needs to be my goal to have all my stuff put together, have it nicely tied up in a bow and that's never going to happen. William Curb: Yeah. I definitely see everyone with ADHD is just sat with that feeling of why can't I do it? What is wrong with me? And it is that other side of like people being like, what do they know about ADHD, but also I'm surprised what I still learn about ADHD. Dr. Tamara Rosier: or, you know, I always say, so here's your apple and that's a kangaroo - they're not even comparable. It's not even a thing. And so sometimes when we look at other people going, well, how come they can just show up at work every day on time? And I have to yell at myself. I have to do all these things to motivate myself. You know, why can't I just do it? Well, we have to figure out ways for you to do it. Not just wish that it just happened to us.