NOT "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

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Not Just Friends is a guide for couples in committed relationships who genuinely want to recover from the damage that is caused by an affair, and for those who are ready to do that type of work. The way you and your friend treat each other will change when you’re becoming more than friends. You’ll give each other more attention and make each other a priority. You’ll want to talk to them all the time, and when you’re not talking to them, you’ll talk about them. For Emma, it all started when she finally got on Facebook. Her kids had been asking her to set up an account for years, but she was more reserved and didn’t feel like she would have many friends to connect with online. When she joined, she added her extended family, neighbors, and a few friends from her local mom’s club—but that was it.

There are many opportunities to accidentally touch each other when you’re at the cinema, like when both of you reach for the popcorn simultaneously. Most people, including unfaithful partners, think that talking about an affair with the betrayed partner will only create more upset, but that is actually the way to rebuild intimacy. Trying to recover without discussing the betrayal is like waxing a dirty floor. You’re clearly more than friends if you can’t wait to tell each other about the things you did and didn’t do.

Well, an example could be when they stare into your eyes for an uncomfortably long time, or when they anxiously shift their eyes away, unable to keep looking you directly in the eyes. The fourth part of the book is dedicated to healing: How to heal together as a couple and strengthen the relationship, forgiveness, and for those who healing alone is the focus. You feel like you must make these references because your friend is constantly on your mind. You can’t stop thinking about them. Maybe you even catch yourself daydreaming about being with them.

You don’t want to torch what you have – true – but you also don’t want to miss out on the chance at something deep and romantic that might otherwise pass you by. You know what happens when someone falls in love – everything reminds them of the person they love so that person is always on their mind.Be patient because chemistry and feelings aren’t enough to make your relationship work. 4. Stay friends even when you’re lovers. That is until one day when Emma left her Facebook account open and her husband, Rich, saw a message from Bob pop up. Is that mood boost joyousness from the upcoming time with your friend or the upcoming time with your special friend? Do they keep trying to talk to you, and you notice that they put a lot less effort into communication with other friends?