How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids

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OK, if you don't have a degree in counseling or a related field, the book is hereby recommended to you for the useful advice contained therein. Now I'm going to complain.

What You Could Do: You can’t change your history and your childhood but you can work with your spouse to recreate your expectations regarding marriage. The weight you carry from work, your other relationships, or just the responsibilities you bear eventually chip away at your resilience and patience. Hilarious.... This truly fascinating text is delightful. One of the best books on the subject. Highly recommended." When you start having the conversation of having children with your husband, it’s common to only focus on the positives. The joy of bringing another person into the world and teaching them right from wrong is the most selfless and beautiful thing you can do.There are plenty of couples who believe sex isn’t as important as it is. When in reality, it’s one of the rawest and genuine ways for you to show that you care for your significant other. Sex is more than physical attraction, which will become quite clear if you’re experiencing a lapse in this aspect of your marriage. What You Could Do: Practice mindfulness exercises. Establish a mental threshold between the stressors at work and the peace you have at home. A note: Her how-to is primarily for heterosexual couples—there is a larger body of research on heterosexual couples than there is for same-sex couples, and hetero couples have all the aforementioned gender-role programming to deal with—but the book is pretty helpful for anyone at all who’s ever resented their partner after having a baby.

Experts repeatedly told us that when you have a baby, you and your mate have a brand-new relationship—meaning everything is up for renegotiation. That includes chores. If you feel your husband hasn’t been pulling his weight or trying hard enough, don’t hesitate to demand more. Then there is a chapter about sex (nothing you’d be afraid to have your neighbor see you reading), money, and clutter.Dunn's writing is effortless and chatty.... The book is compassionate and reasonable.... This book would make a far more practical shower gift than, say, yet another organic cotton receiving blanket. Babies grow up fast and require less stuff than we usually buy them; we adults are the ones that keep growing." You may have fallen for it because you might have the exact self-sacrificing personality type that allows you to be undermined for the happiness of someone you love. For example, “I feel frustrated and unsupported when I come out from putting the baby to bed to find the kitchen still a mess and you relaxing on the couch because it feels like I have to do it all by myself and that your relaxation is more important than mine.” Leave the house Dunn says that “weekends should not be a forced march” of childcare and chores. “You need to negotiate weekend time, and ask each other ‘what are we doing this weekend that meets everyone’s needs?’” She calls it the “everyone sort of wins” strategy. Before you disagree or respond to his allegations, try “I hear that you’re frustrated because I left you with the baby all morning and then said I needed a nap.” Use “I” statements